Two days before the eviction date, the public-appointed lawyer wrote to inform me that the eviction had been suspended for the second time in 2024.
JULY 2021 The Signed Financial Agreement
After negotiation lasting from March to June with a UK mediation company, Waypoint. Who were not ethical and defrauded several vulnerable individuals. (Another story) A verbal agreement had been reached. I sacked the company when they failed to pay the first agreed instalment of £3000 from April 2021.
I discovered that as early as May 2021, even through the mediation and negotiations, PH had already instructed another lawyer based in Barcelona, the evidence of the BUROFAX was sent to me via the documents I requested from the sacked public appointed lawyer. He then attempted to reduce the agreed settlement from £40,000 to £25,000 using the pressure of an enforced precarious eviction, to make me accept less or have nothing at all. Weaponising my economic vulnerability and using the legal proceedings as an abuse of his power over me.
A meeting took place where we signed an agreement for a much lower financial settlement than was originally offered. It was back to £40,0000 again. When the buyer dropped out, I offered vacant possession as I had the offer of a rental. PH refused to communicate and pressed ahead with his Barcelona lawyer on the eviction proceedings. This agreement was made before I lost my UK rental and 50% of my future pension. His civil litigation was a malicious litigation; he could have had his property returned in 2021, instead of coming to a reasonable resolution, he chose litigation over negotiation, and we have lost years of our lives while heading into retirement. His decisions have been very costly for both of us.
Legal Complicity and Conflicting Advice
My journey through the Spanish justice system was further complicated by professional negligence and ethical failures. I received conflicting advice from multiple sources:
Public Appointed Lawyer: After my case was dismissed in January 2021, I was told, “My job is done, you need to find a new lawyer”. This was incorrect; an appeal should have been lodged.
CAVI Cartagena: The advice I received—to stay in the property, stop making complaints to avoid “making him angry,” and to negotiate- was not only unhelpful but potentially illegal.
The Law: I later discovered that under Organic Law 1/2004, mediation and negotiation are prohibited in cases involving gender-based violence.
By the time I received this advice, there had been six attempts to negotiate.
The Reality Behind the Court Documents
When a perpetrator of domestic abuse has money, they can pretty much buy a Spanish solicitor who will feed lies into the court. Legal professionals are absolutely complicit in the abuse.
Fiction: In the civil court documents regarding a Verbal Hearing for Precarious Eviction, the former partner, Mr. H, claimed he ended our eleven-year relationship in a “friendly and amicable” way. He stated he asked me to leave by September 2020 to give me time to find a job and a home.
The reality was far darker.
Errr NO. On September 4th, the mask slipped. His words were not amicable; they were a threat: “Do not f**k about with me. I’m in control. You do as I say, or I can throw you out on to the streets”.
Fact: He wrote his “Dear Loraine” letter 29th August 2020 with his financial offer of 50% of the value of the property €115,000.
Fiction: In the next paragraph of the court document. His statement was, I asked her to leave in November 2020 for the same reason, giving her time to find a job and a place to live.
Errr NO. (It was 2020 COVID lockdown)
Fact: I wrote him an email on 12th September – my idea of an alternative financial proposal – after he had refused my “verbal” request of helping by redeeming the UK mortgage on a rental (my future pension) before he would leave Spain. So I would have some form of stable income.
Fact: We met on the15th September to supposedly discuss his letter and my financial proposal. I requested to record that meeting to protect myself. He raged at me, “You can not negotiate with me”
There was no meaningful discussion. Only a one-sided verbal onslaught of threats, verbal aggression, insults, humiliation, anger and rage. Captured in a now “infamous” 26-minute recording. Clips which have now got over 144k views on TikTok.
I had requested to record that meeting for my own protection after his previous intimidation. Instead of a “meaningful discussion,” I was met with a one-sided verbal onslaught of insults, humiliation, and rage. He arbitrarily set a deadline.
- “Not 1 month.”
- “Not 2 months.”
- “4 months… If you have not bought this house. If this house is not sold, then YOU’RE OUT!” And I‘m moving back in.
This was not a friendly agreement; it was a deadline set in fear, ending with him slamming his fist on a glass table and threatening to throw my suitcases out the door
Backtracking on his November 2020 Deadline – Truth
A few days later, he comes into my bedroom looking very pale, ashen-faced. I asked him if he was okay. (Actually, he looked very unwell) Not surprising, really, because he was overindulging in alcohol and cannabis every day.
He stood in front of the window with his arms outstretched and said. “I need a hug.” It was the little lost boy.
He needed a hug. Really! I got off the bed and went over to where he was standing. I stood in front of him, feeling strange.
He wrapped his arms around me. I just stood there; I didn’t put my arms around him. He then bent his head towards my ear and whispered. “I didn’t really mean for you to leave in November.”
From Criminal Allegations to Financial Devastation
The intimidation escalated from civil to criminal. In October 2022, the Guardia Civil informed me of seven criminal allegations. Mr H’s lawyer requested maximum penalties totalling seventeen years in prison. The evidence included 30 pages of social media screenshots, a move that felt more like obsessive stalking than a legal pursuit. It was another malicious litigation. Known as SLAPP.
For two years, I lived with the extreme emotional manipulation and fear of imprisonment. It wasn’t until October 2024 that the criminal case was fully dismissed. While I could finally breathe, I was left financially devastated.
Choosing Mindset
Even after his legal defeats in 2024, the sabotage continued. While I was building a new income stream through my podcast, Mr H sold the property without informing me, leaving me with a 10-day notice to vacate a home I had occupied for a decade.
My story reveals how perpetrators with resources can use the legal system as a tool for post-separation litigation abuse and economic exhaustion.
WHAT TYPE OF MAN? The book I first self-published in May 2022 under the pen name Loren Keeling, while I was under the threat of precarious eviction in Spain.
Plans for a sequel. “Deceptions and Illusions. Embroidered with Truth.”
LifeChangePlans.com A non-profit project, so 100% of royalties can go to help more women who experience post-separation legal and economic abuse.
Success With Loraine
My next book publication will be “After The Discard – No Divorce Required.” This will be my personal book and launch into some other form of business entity. Supporting women or professional consultancy based on lived experience. Including my self-help trauma to transformation and planned “Country Park Retreat Space”
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