In this episode, Loraine delves into the manipulation and gaslighting she experienced from the person who was part of her life for eleven years. Apart from not being able to negotiate, he controlled the process by dangling the offers while at the same time threatening to leave me with nothing while reducing the offer from €115,000 to €13,000 or nothing at all. Loraine tried negotiating a settlement while the past partner wanted to force an eviction in the Spanish Civil Courts.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Settlement vs Eviction. You can not negotiate with me ´what Loraine’s former partner had told her.
Legal advice that told me to file a gender violence complaint.
The former couple’s joint solicitor was not very helpful, as he told Loraine she had no rights in Spain.
Six failed attempts at trying to negotiate or mediate. Gaslighting and psychological abuse. As the former partner kept changing his mind.
Introducing the new wife in July 2021, on the day we met to try and sort out a financial settlement. A red flag in the cycle of abuse is triangulation.
BEST MOMENTS
Loraine’s former partner turned hostile after he ended the relationship.
Loraine thought that her former partner would end things amicably. She was shocked by how he changed his behaviour very quickly.
Settlement vs Eviction. A meeting they had to discuss things turned into intimidation and threats of being thrown out of the door.
Regarding the proposal Loraine made to her former partner, he said, “That’s a terribly terribly terribly bad idea, and it’s not going to happen.”
A Barcelona solicitor started the eviction process in June 2021, yet Loraine obtained a signed agreement in July 2021.
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